Oddly enough,

No matter how many times we think about it, the truth remains that what we really want, is another who cares enough about us to listen. A one who delights in our company, enjoys our subtleties, and embraces the outline of our convictions.

Should that not be what you think, I understand.

But I thought it was worth sharing....

It has been confirmed, today(everyday) He is risin!

Me, I am blessed by the day, and the worship and teachings at church as well, so my heart, my heart is filled with Joy right now. And you, how are you today?

Often of course, I wonder about you, and wish that you would write more, and yet, I know you're busy, so I smile anyway.

Be good as you go today, and remember, the next man, even if he isn't me, he should be as good to you, as I (am)would have been, so please, choose wisely, and react, accordingly....

And Yes, April arrived a few days ago,

And as I started work in the gardens, began to clean up the train track lay out, and plotted a strategy for the coming season, me, me I looked back over the past winter and all that wasn't completed from my last year here in the valley, and yet, I found reason(s) to smile:

As the sun returns, and the grasses begin to burn,
me, me I'll still have you.

And though you've married another and you both have a new baby to enjoy me, me I still have your friendship!

And though the economy is forcing you to flower into the pixie you should have always been, still, when you went home, thousands of miles away, I knew how much you missed me, and me, me, I still have you near.

And of course, no matter the number of pretty boys calling, or those who chase you around the car show circuit, in the end, as the day concludes, you're always alone(save for the children), and in that way, I still have you too!

Many a friend, from Spokane to Paris Hobbs, to Alberta, and beyond, keep me connected, keep my words infected with love and joy and bliss and truth, that as I looked out over the gardens I'll plant this year, I knew one thing was surely to come to pass during the season that sun returns to the valley, me, me I'll be on the road a lot this year, and as I stop to rest, I truly hope you'll be there when I call to say that me, me, I'm right outside, come, let's play while the sun shines brightly, upon us both.

And who knows, maybe this is the year that changes it all?
Me, me I can only hope and wait with glee.....

H20

Contained within you is strength enough to fight for victory,
yet gentle nonetheless, to wipe the tears from a child's cheek.

Enduring enough to withstand any crisis, and yet,
caring still to mend the broken hearted amongst us.

Faithful enough to stay,
when everything(one) else has
left, or been lost.

And in that, true friendships are realized!

I believe it was James Brown who said;

This is a man's world,
this is a man's world
But it wouldn't be nothing,
nothing without a woman or a girl

You see, man made the cars to take us over the road
Man made the trains to carry heavy loads
Man made electric light to take us out of the dark
Man made the boat for the water,
like Noah made the ark

This is a man's,
a man's, a man's world

But it wouldn't be nothing,
nothing without a woman or a girl

Man thinks about a little baby girls and a baby boys
Man makes then happy 'cause man makes them toys
And after man has made everything,
everything he can
You know that man makes money
to buy from other man

This is a man's world
But it wouldn't be nothing,
nothing without a woman or a girl

He's lost in the world of man
He's lost in bitterness

Friendships(and why I deleted you) require;

Comfort ability.

Hard to say, but I've had all the sweet talking, make up wearing (in excess), too tight high heel stepping woman for a life time. Does this make me shallow?

No, for I am just lazy enough, to not want anything too overtly complicated, when real joy is simple enough. Me, I’d welcome friends who can actually think calmly, speak softly, ask real questions, follow complete directions, walk over a mile, and then, not pass out when I dance with their younger sister.

A one that’s a human being 1st. who happens to be a themselves always. Someone that knows that sarcasm is not witticism! Can I say someone who is deep thinker and alluring? Someone who is passive and giving?

Someone who has faults?
And strengths too?

Me, I would be pleased with someone who realizes that no two men are alike, and that therefore some males are actually just that, not men!

Aside from that, in reading what I usually write, there should be no question(s) as to why superficial nonsense, and outright B/s in not fundamental to continued friendship.

In the between though, please, be blessed as you go....

In the days of lost jobs and less money;

Some people, in all honesty, are wonderful partners when everything is going well, but, when things get turned inside out, these very same people turn into quite the selfish beings, when things take a turn for the worse.

You, you may be enjoying your partner while he or she is happy in the moment, but be honest, don’t you truly just want to get away from, and/or even yell not so passionately this time, at your partner when he or she is giving you a hard time?

And yes, I am leading this into what is sometimes accepted as: the “fair weather” friend. Which, oddly enough, is not what a partner is supposed to be for you, and yes, if I hear one more insipid reference to the “friends w/benefits” scenario, trust me, I will not be happy!

Get a grip!

It's a fact that sometimes your partner will take an emotional dump, that is, he or she will be unhappy about something, and to you, it doesn't look like it will be over in just a few minutes!

You, you may want to improve or fix this situation for them, and that can, sometimes work.However, another approach is to allow the moment to pass, without your participation. Sure, you should support them, remembering what you love about them, and stay centered and content within that love you have for them, and, know that they will bounce back.

In fact, you holding a centered space can help them bounce back!

In contrast, going “down with them”, getting unhappy too, buying into their sad story or getting angry, may of course just make things worse. I mean, the whole point is that They want you to go “down” with them, hoping of course that you’re not aware of the following little known fact: Sometimes people want to take an emotional dump!

And sometimes, they will want company.

And oddly enough, if you’re willing to enjoy your partner, and be with him or her when a “down cycle” hits; that is, to go down with him or her, it can be a very intimate thing. Obviously, you wouldn't want to do this all the time.

Yet, sometimes, it's a gift to your partner to allow them to have their pity parties, but NOT to go down with them. Sometimes it's best to stay “UP”, and hold the space for when they are ready to feel better. But for a change, you might try rejecting this downward plunge into an emotional abyss with them, consciously knowing, that when they are looking to go down or have a bad time, your most important role, is to maintain your own sanity, for in that way, your maintaining yourself.

Love is not how badly I can be treated,
Nor is it how low I’ll go to keep you!

Love is about comfort and stability.

Love is about caring and commitment.
Love, therefore is also about reality!

And in being real, love is not about allowing another to wreck your joy.

You, you be blessed, and be(come) a blessing to others.

Never forgetting that in this life,
Joy is not a given;

Nor should it be something easily consumed by another!

Today

Two hearts that share emotions are indeed two souls so close, they touch.
Two spirits so joined from within, one to the other
that each soars upon the energy, released from just the other.

Today

Reflecting on a connection that's grown,
two hearts, now, learning to beat as one.

The sweetest memories of times together,
leading into moments, never to be undone.

Reflections of our early days,
not unlike children that grew too fast.

Reflections of our endless potential,
for a Valentine's Day Love,
that would actually last.

Tomorrow

Living without fear,
tomorrow; living without the regret of tears.

Tomorrow; learning just to live
For within this, friendships become love
As in this, lovers will forever remain friends…

Break up, break downs(edited):

In the beginning(s), God had created man, who the subsequently finding himself alone, realized that he should have a companion. Seeing this, God was kind enough to craft from the man, Woman. Another who from within the man, could stand with him and complete his life from the opposite, and/or at least internal point of view.

Marriage thus was consummated!

Oddly enough though, marriage, just like the seasons, has changed recently from what a man needed, and is often no longer a real union of the souls, as it is a contractual agreement between the partners. Question then, do not geese have a life long partner?

Why then should a Woman not have the same?

Is she not as capable, as steadfast, as a bird?
Are not men able to put aside their worldly ambitions and seek to hold dear the ambitions spoken and honorably contained in their vows and thus should be commitments towards their wives? If then, "to have and to hold" is not a slogan, then, it must be an attainable goal. For to come full circle in my own thought(s), the goal should be consummated with another, not just someone outside myself.

The goal of marriage was supposed to be; the relinquishing of your will, to the power and strength of another, and so to achieve this goal, consideration must be given to the one with whom you seek to wed; Is he a believer in the premise of marriage, or just a one wanting to hold you within the framework of a relational contract. As for the woman, does she posses the desire to see you through the ages, or only a one seeking that which is good and safe in the now?

Marriage, oddly enough is about forever.
Forever my man.
Forever your woman.
Forever!

Anything less than that is not a genuine marriage at all.
Anything less than that is actually just another relational construct for the here and now, not tomorrow and always. Which could be good too, but not for the reason you were crafted from within me though!

Valentines day(and life after the bloom);

Relationships work beautifully when the man focuses much of his attention on the woman’s growth and development. In this way, the woman is lit up and happy with his kindness and direction, and this ease of happiness flows through to his life as well.

As I'm sure you well know:
"If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!"

Therefore, it's in both of your interests for him to learn how to pay attention, and understand your needs and wants. In fact he wants to know this (!), even if instinctively, he’s afraid to admit it. However, it's highly likely that your partner has not been trained in how to pay proper attention to his woman. The result is that way too often, both of you focus on the global relationship, which just leaves the woman frustrated and wanting more.

More of what? Attention and direction from her man!

Yes - attention. As a woman, you should have it, you deserve it, and you'll both have way much more pleasure, as he learns how to provide it.

In fact - he wants you to be happy! He just doesn't always know how to best accomplish this. OR - he hasn't yet discovered how to win from giving you this attention.Honestly, in our shallow, conditioned world, much of a woman’sattractiveness or value in society comes from two sources: 1) her youthful beauty, and 2) her ability to bear children.

Unfortunately, both diminish with age, with the result that a woman might be considered less 'marketable' as she gets older. (By contrast, a man gets more marketable as he gets older. As he not only accumulates wealth, power and experience; distinguished when the grey start to appear at his temples)

The stigma that exists for women who are unattached before their youth and fertility start to diminish can cause them to be devalued by society. With this information, we can understand why a woman may feel pressure to attract and 'keep' the man in the relationship using whatever resources she has, including having sex with her partner out of a sense of obligation, instead of respect and reverance.

But in reality, the best way to prosper in a relationship with a man, is to educate yourself and him about what you already know as a woman, and about the things that you need to learn in order to be a better woman, not just for him, but for your children, your family, and yourself!

In this, well-meaning men (masters of the world contained within the relationship) can compensate for, or reverse this by paying more positive and effective attention to the women in their lives. An exercise you can do to help facilitate this is to schedule one hour with your partner (or a close female friend if you are currently single) within the next three days. Mention the issues discussed above, as it is youunderstand them, and then, ask her what it's like to grow up being a woman. LISTEN ;-)

Learn how best to discuss your own feelings and desires with your man, so that he can learn how you came to be, and who you’re willing to become within the context of your relationship together.

For practice is how we learn best, and to be affective teachers of those we love, we’re going to have to understand how best to translate our needs into words that can be readily understood and put into practice, in our lives, in our loves, in all of our relationships.

Valentines Day approaches. Please don't let it go down to cheap candy and plastic sentiments. Reach deep, willing yourself to learn how to love, and to surrender yourself to that love in a way that nourishes and sustains your growth as we both continue to age, gracefully!

Love, sometimes;

Is nothing more than air,
and yet, unlike breathing
love is a choice that we have to make.

Air, not unlike love keeps us vibrant and alive,
but love, just like air is near to us, and yet we are
very often, unwilling to accept that it exist!

How, I wonder can this be?

Air, being the surface that my planes fly across,
the invisible force that keeps my kites aloft,
is as real as anything else that I can't see!

And therefore love, love being the current that flows within me,
the unyielding force that keeps my heart intact and my joy exalted,
is just as great a reality as air, even though unlike air, me, I have to be love, in order to see love and accept it.

And in that, fear has no room to hide from it
for like the air, when we believe,
love is actually everywhere!

For all the men I knew in the year passing;

Anyone ever tell you why women are so complicated?

In the New Year, let this guide how you interact with your own woman, and any we may share as friends. Women, woman are generally credited with a much higher E.Q. (emotional intelligence) than us. And they also tend to have a greater awareness of other people, and emotions. In this way, women also tend to have greater access to their own wider range of emotions.

Whereas we will often complain about women thinking illogically (because 'logically' and 'rationally' is the only valid way to think- or so we often assume!) and going through mood swings, what we need to recognize is that we’d never want to be in a world populated only by men, because (oddly enough) we have emotions as well, and we usually only express them completely, in the company of Woman!

Women also give us greater access to this wider range of our own feeling, and it's through their expressed joy(s) and exultations, that we're pulled to even greater heights as human beings, just as it’s through their sorrow and tears, that we explore our saddest depths.

This, if we’re really honest about it, is what we like about them.

Anyhoo, this is why, in the New Year, I’m asking you(men) to put more attention and effort on what your lover wants; more attention on making her happy, as well as deeply contented with your presence in her life. A Woman’s life is enhanced and magnified through the experience of their partner, and though we rarely talk about this, when your relationship with this woman is over, the lack of an enhanced and magnified experience, is what makes it so hard for you, to replace her with a better woman.

For the last Jack(!), just like your self, has left his ex empty as well!

See how this can snowball?

It's been said:

"The life of a man on his own, is predictable and black and white.
The life of a man with a woman is Technicolor and covered in glory."

But this is what I say:

In the New Year, be a man worthy of being connected to.
For the next woman you choose to try this with, may have had experienced less, than she deserved before you!


And me, I’m getting tired of righting all these wrongs…..

Sunday, finds me on the road again;

Different valley,
same white lines,
and yet;
something’s different.

Having the time,
having the option
to exploit the permission,
this road seems clearer.

You know,
where I come from
the Holidays
conclude
after the 1st.

For you then,
be at peace
with yourself;
while you decide if I should!

In the between,
the road to there seems long,
but I've noticed in my travels
time never takes as long
as it should.

Might be the vistas
could even be the rhythm of the road.

Nonetheless,
if we don't travel past ourselves
then how does the journey end?

For me then,
I find peace within.

Even after I've decided
not knowing,
is the worst
trip of all!

Remembering the day;

For Love, love can not be held in a box,
nor wrapped in foil and topped with a bow.

But love,
love can come with a smile,
and in the spirit of the season,
I'm sure you are now!

Love, like a real friend
Never forgets…

The Power of a Man;

"A man has the power to love a woman in a way that she has never been loved before, and yet, hurt her with the same intensity!

A man has the power to treat a woman like his queen, then turn around and make her wish she was never born.

A man has the power to make a woman cry with happiness and joy, then turn around, and make her cry, with hurt and anger.

A man has the power to let a woman feel free and wanted, and then, with just a word, feel disgusted and unworthy.

An unreal man has the power to look a woman in her face, and tell her how much he loves her, but turn around, and sleep with her best friend.

A man has the power to make you fall in love with him within days, and then hate him within minutes!

A man has the power to change a woman from having no goals, to living out the goals he has established within her. A man has the power.

Within this power,
life was thus created!

And destroyed!

For power requires your cooperation and love,
in order to stay within the limits of reason.

And very few men have had that......

My Hands;

Open the curtains of your being and
Clothe you into a further nudity.

My hands
uncover the dimensions of your body
And restore its regal purpose.

My hands
invent another body for your understanding
For in knowing me, your body becomes new.


Which in all honestly,
is just another way of saying
breath and be whole!

"I was wondering;

have you realized that life will allow you to discover its one true purpose, if you take just a minute of your time, to find contained within another, all the things, you've yet become?"


I was wondering too over the weekend, what is it that makes an absolutely incredible sexual partner, from another men's perspective? Listening, as I often do, it seems her willingness to experiment, and to do some of the things he wants is a huge plus. But we also know that an attractive face and figure doesn't hurt either, though, most men aren't really that choosey.

However, I believe that the thing that makes a woman the most rewarding, and fulfilling as a sexual partner for a man, is her ability to experience pleasure! If a woman can orgasm consistently (and ideally somewhat vocally), I feel a deep sense of satisfaction in having been able to please her. I'll go even further and say that given a choice between my own orgasm with a woman who is not enjoying the sex, and not coming with a woman who has multiple orgasms and is eternally pleased, nine times out of ten I would choose the latter!

To me, this sexual example illustrates a fundamental principle of successful relationships, which is that: men are most happy when pleasing their woman, more so when the woman is responding in a way that enhances that mans understanding of her pleasure.

Of course, if I told you the dream argument and make up that prompted me to write this, you be wondering why I like yellow and black, or for the matter; no wonder you'd say, after I mentioned the midnight snack of left over Chinese food which preceded the events in the dream, but that's always another reason to write!

Anyhoo, it's impossible to feel pleasure, to experience real bliss, when the person your with isn't as happy as you are. So if your immediate relationships are not working as well as you like; check the temperature!

Another's fear(s), contained in being pleased, and your own disappointments surrounding your misunderstanding of them, might be the reason.

Me, I Love 'cause I need love in order to grow and flourish.

You, if you're living without love, have you ever considered the cost?

Just wondering……

Because of Love;

I'd lock out my page.

Because of love, I've changed how I am in public.
Because of love, I'd delete anyone you asked me to.
Because of love, I can wait until the time comes.
Because of love, I could actually feel lighter, and more free.

Yes, love is tangible.
And yes, love is tactile.
Love proves it self in action and in deeds.

But sometimes,
all love is is a word.

Sometimes, it's just a post card, or a poem.

Sometimes, love is a simple hi, but I can't talk right now!

Me, I know what love is.
And sometimes, love is just three words that create a smile
within the heart of the person we love.

Call me weak, but I like love,
and anyway it chooses to reveal itself,
is more than alright with me!

Me, I just had to get that off my mind......

May I call you SunShine?

Some day’s sunshine,
I don’t actually write all the words I’ve considered.

And not just because there aren’t things, places, and/or people I’d like to write about, but oddly enough, my inability to get all these new words streaming towards the paper, originates not from being able to generate the necessary focus, but because, I can see far too clearly!

Wanting to write, desiring to express myself, is only part of my process around turning abstractions into words. More often, I am just breathing and that act of catching one new breath becomes a word that supports a sentence, which then becomes a meditation en route to a story.

Sometimes, people within my sensory areas can create a ripple that I can use as a story propellant, though mostly, it is through their subsurface pain and the things that I can discern that they are hiding from, that makes the window into a story open wide for me.

Even in the vacuum of a total stranger, a story is often revealed to me by often just the placement of their hands on a table, or a story is hidden under the flickering of their eyes. Sometimes, it’s even contained within the voice, in which they address a small child, that their story is told.

Wanting to follow and explore these stories are a great value to me, even though, they often cost me more than the completed narrative is worth. For the pain I must wade through, to get at the chance to see the boundaries of this new and exciting story, is neither as easily forgotten as I would like, nor as easily rendered into more than just an abstraction of the present moment, revealed in that instant.

Nonetheless, theses stories, these connected words from within others is something that I’ve never been able to turn away from. This, I eerily discovered when I grew old enough to seek more than a gentle touch from the others around me. Seems, each person that I more than casually touched, revealed something about themselves, whenever we connected long enough for me to see whatever was hidden in their smile.

Of course, some of those early stories were the best, if not but for the intense rush of revelation that washed over me in that instant we touched. Others, where so diabolically beautiful, it made me weep immediately with the knowledge, whereas some, some were just the vaporous and fantastical endeavors of the deceiver among us.

But each, each in their own way, were as sweet as the rains that used to fall out behind the homes in which I to lived when everything was new to me, back when none of this made sense to me!

But now I see clearly, that which I was just feeling then.

Words, words and the images that live within us all are the unrealized ideals that I am so unafraid of now. For now, I’ve grown in my acceptance of the unspoken fears and whispers of others. Now, I seem so ready to just move in the silent waves from within another, so as to be completely washed by the radiant embers of that life I can see, without really looking and discern without ever clearly hearing, and in that sunshine, is my peace, and daily thanksgiving. In that is the essence of why I came to be.

And though I’ve yet to learn the fate of this blessing, my embrace upon it has grown with the knowledge that it’s mine alone to share with you!

This morning

I found myself considering all those that I had really wanted to know better, and your smile revealed itself in my minds eyes.

Not knowing how your life has been over these few season of distance between us, I just wanted to show that I do indeed think about you often.