Valentines day(and life after the bloom);

Relationships work beautifully when the man focuses much of his attention on the woman’s growth and development. In this way, the woman is lit up and happy with his kindness and direction, and this ease of happiness flows through to his life as well.

As I'm sure you well know:
"If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!"

Therefore, it's in both of your interests for him to learn how to pay attention, and understand your needs and wants. In fact he wants to know this (!), even if instinctively, he’s afraid to admit it. However, it's highly likely that your partner has not been trained in how to pay proper attention to his woman. The result is that way too often, both of you focus on the global relationship, which just leaves the woman frustrated and wanting more.

More of what? Attention and direction from her man!

Yes - attention. As a woman, you should have it, you deserve it, and you'll both have way much more pleasure, as he learns how to provide it.

In fact - he wants you to be happy! He just doesn't always know how to best accomplish this. OR - he hasn't yet discovered how to win from giving you this attention.Honestly, in our shallow, conditioned world, much of a woman’sattractiveness or value in society comes from two sources: 1) her youthful beauty, and 2) her ability to bear children.

Unfortunately, both diminish with age, with the result that a woman might be considered less 'marketable' as she gets older. (By contrast, a man gets more marketable as he gets older. As he not only accumulates wealth, power and experience; distinguished when the grey start to appear at his temples)

The stigma that exists for women who are unattached before their youth and fertility start to diminish can cause them to be devalued by society. With this information, we can understand why a woman may feel pressure to attract and 'keep' the man in the relationship using whatever resources she has, including having sex with her partner out of a sense of obligation, instead of respect and reverance.

But in reality, the best way to prosper in a relationship with a man, is to educate yourself and him about what you already know as a woman, and about the things that you need to learn in order to be a better woman, not just for him, but for your children, your family, and yourself!

In this, well-meaning men (masters of the world contained within the relationship) can compensate for, or reverse this by paying more positive and effective attention to the women in their lives. An exercise you can do to help facilitate this is to schedule one hour with your partner (or a close female friend if you are currently single) within the next three days. Mention the issues discussed above, as it is youunderstand them, and then, ask her what it's like to grow up being a woman. LISTEN ;-)

Learn how best to discuss your own feelings and desires with your man, so that he can learn how you came to be, and who you’re willing to become within the context of your relationship together.

For practice is how we learn best, and to be affective teachers of those we love, we’re going to have to understand how best to translate our needs into words that can be readily understood and put into practice, in our lives, in our loves, in all of our relationships.

Valentines Day approaches. Please don't let it go down to cheap candy and plastic sentiments. Reach deep, willing yourself to learn how to love, and to surrender yourself to that love in a way that nourishes and sustains your growth as we both continue to age, gracefully!

Love, sometimes;

Is nothing more than air,
and yet, unlike breathing
love is a choice that we have to make.

Air, not unlike love keeps us vibrant and alive,
but love, just like air is near to us, and yet we are
very often, unwilling to accept that it exist!

How, I wonder can this be?

Air, being the surface that my planes fly across,
the invisible force that keeps my kites aloft,
is as real as anything else that I can't see!

And therefore love, love being the current that flows within me,
the unyielding force that keeps my heart intact and my joy exalted,
is just as great a reality as air, even though unlike air, me, I have to be love, in order to see love and accept it.

And in that, fear has no room to hide from it
for like the air, when we believe,
love is actually everywhere!