Sure, I understand longing and loneliness, but the wrong choice(s), is still wrong: "As a dog returns to its vomit, so fools repeat their folly." Proverbs 26:11
For even if you fail to know who you are, at least know to whom you're connected! 1. Be rightly placed in a specified position. 2. Fit in a specified place or environment. Which makes being punched in the face, a wrong idea, again! Change please, if not for yourself, then for them.