In the absence of a clear reality, we not only hurt ourselves, but we can devastate those who are counting on us, to lead them through! In this, I think I hear that verse:
2 Tim 2:20 "In a large house there are articles not only of gold and silver, but also of wood and clay; some are for special purposes and some for common use. 21 Those who cleanse themselves from the latter will be instruments for special purposes, made holy, useful to the Master and prepared to do any good work."