Relationships challenge us to accept the unknown of both ourselves and the other,
and this is never easy. Meeting this challenge must be founded on trust.
You need to trust that the other will get whatever they need from you.
You also need to trust that you will get whatever you need from them.
The key word is NEED, not desire.
We are not in relationships to have our desires fulfilled.
It is up to us to fulfill our own desires and stop demanding that they be fulfilled by others.
For example, if you have the desire to be loved,
you must not demand it from someone else.
You fulfill your need for love by expressing it,
and no one can prevent you from doing that.
We usually create difficulties in our relationships
when we let our desires get in the way of the needs.
When we dont get our desires met and that includes things like getting our way,
getting what we want, getting love and attention,
being made to feel important, being shown respect and honor,
and so on we usually get angry, sad, resentful or revengeful.
When that happens we need to stop and ask ourselves what we really need,
and then give it to ourselves rather than demanding it from others.
Its not always easy to know what we need.
While we are conscious of our desires,
our needs are usually related to what we are unconscious of.
Thats why intimacy is an important aspect of all relationships.
Intimacy exposes the unconscious and teaches us trust.
Intimacy helps us to recognize needs and awakens the love to respond to those needs.
It especially empowers us to meet our own needs.
Intimacy says: you are acceptable and lovable just as you are.
It helps to remember that soul is the underlying guide of all relationships.
We always get what we need in our relationships
because the soul always responds to need.
If we dont recognize this,
the problem lies only in our lack of awareness and understanding.
All of our relationships have the potential of showing us who we are as souls,
and asking us to relate as souls to the other.
Thats why our relationship challenges are such powerful forces for personal growth!
About Me
- Edward Thomas
- More than just a Man, but also, a human being as well; Me, I'm just as often found @ the center of the struggle, but never as someones absent minded follower. True enough, I love my Mother, and though I'm eager to be perfect, I actually prefer to be nice, than have my own way! When asked, my closest friends would say that I am often in the company of the wind: The Wind(a dear friend of mine since birth) and I are often near and around you, and though, we're not always seen or felt near you, it's always better understood within you. Odd I know, but true nonetheless. True, not unlike the truth contained withing the thought of me flying would appear, but then again, when the wind wills, well, often I've awoken in strange places and had to patiently await his return, so as to get back home again. Luckily, he never lingers long, for it's hard enough explaining my discernment (of)to people. Imagine the after shock of a early morning phone call from Cleveland???
