Wanting to discover other people in my work and play life,

I found that by providing the answer,
it often revealed the questions.

Who am I(?) is a question that can best be answered when viewed through the prism,
of who I am not.

Honestly:

I don't want You to be less than I am for the comfort level of those around we may be around.
For I am not a man who will not let you explore your thoughts with me, even when you're unfocused, for that is how I get focused too.

I am not a man who does not kiss and touch gently to stimulate you as we begin to make love, but sometimes it's just sex.

I am not a man who does not allow your natural rhythms for sleep, food, relaxation, work and exercise to be what they are, or need to be.

I am not a man who is not fascinated by what's in your mind, as you need to with my own.

I am a man who doesn't care how I dress or look, Yet I am focused on how you do, and I will respond to you standing before me in a short skirt and heels, a house coat, or nothing at all.

I am a man who will not, nor can not withhold himself from my family, my love, my sex, my thoughts, my activities, my ambitions, my fantasies, my writings.

I am a man who will allow you to love him and express it in the way that is yours to express, who does demands it look a certain way pre-determined by me, yet real Love has many faces, so I am flexible.

I am a man who abuses my strength and capability for my own laziness, deceit or denial, for I am often too much and so I have to temper myself around others, sometimes, maybe even you.

I am a man who can care for himself and you, and if need be, financially. But first, I reclaim all that is mine, at least for my own issues of self.

I am a man who would ask you to do something for him that he knew would hurt, or endanger you, or some part of my life, but only as a tool to your outer growth and inner amazement.

I am not a man who uses pornography. Or has a secret sex life.

I am not a man who will tolerate anyone hurting those I love because I am out of touch with me, nor for that matter, those who you love aside from me.

I am a man who does not know how to be any less than you are in all of your activities and thoughts, no matter how small or large.

I am a man who does not understand your physicality...both the strength and the chronic pain. Though I am not a man who does not appreciate what you have done in your life with the handicaps of pain and limitation is profound and I will support you with massage, a watchful eye, a healthy lifestyle and a heavy hand.

I am a man who is at peace around his parents.

I am a man who does see what your children mean to you and I will create opportunities to your parenting and their growth therein.

I am a man who accepts your friends on a basic level, and will desire to not characterize them negatively in a way designed to plump himself up, but I will not accept less than the best for you, from them.

I am not a man who has any prejudice toward any peoples, individuals, or groups, unless it’s the government, but I am not tolerant nevertheless.

I am not a man who is tied heavily to a doctrine that causes him to be narrow in his humanity or intellect.

I am not a man who is afraid of manual labor.

I am not a man who relies on alcohol, drugs, or any activity to be an obsession and an exclusion from others, but I do have some very strong areas of focus and commitment.

I am a man who deploys his leavings around the house....newspapers, corks, socks, wrappers... As though to say it is always someone else's job to follow me, but I am aware of this habit and attempt to make up for it in my cooking and addiction to doing the laundry. The flowers that I also leave all over the place and of course, my humble love and tenderness, which also translates into the rest of the relationship.

I am a man who does help you to grow sexually through our intimacy and I value sex, yet strive more towards completeness and not just the act itself.

I am a man who does not reflect on his behavior towards others, but I am thoughtful about my love and how she thinks and feels.

I am a man, who does open doors for you, and hope for and often pray that you will seek to open a door for me every now and then.

I am a man who is not often well groomed, but I seek to please you with my appearance, even if I know you can not see me.

I am a man who is not present when he's present, but I will always seek to say so when I can, and you are more than welcome to invite me in, on those occasions when you see that I am out..........there!

I am a man who doesn't understand and like romance............lol!

I am a man who does like his woman getting harmless attention (looks, etc) from men, though overly flirty can be addictive.

I am a man who knows a big and foolish mistake is to take you for granted.

I am not a man who lacks passion and hasn't used his own experiences, good and not, to energize his life.

I am not a man who criticizes you for things you like as though they are silly, even when to me, they may indeed be.

I am not a man who feels "female" activities are somehow less than "male" ones. Like having lunch with a girlfriend is a silly hen coffee clutch thing, but having a beer with the boys is the real thing. Or, one who objects to you having a beer with the boys, maybe.

I am not A man, who doesn't see YOU as you are,
nor often do I want you to be to me whoever it is I may think I need to you to be for my unresolved issues and partially broken heart.

Truly, I just like people to be themselves and therefore open to the honesty
that dwells within us both!